
Since I am the author of the “You and God” blog, I have the opportunity (which I do not take lightly) to choose what the subject of each post will be. I try to stay on biblical issues, doctrinal and practical, and rarely talk about family and personal matters. But “Ellen, My Love” is going to be an exception, because Ellen, my love, has a birthday today!
We met more than 60 years ago as students at Bob Jones University. In those days, three meals a day were served in the Dixon-McKenzie dinning common, and each student was assigned a table at which to sit. Assignments were rotated every few weeks. That’s how Ellen and I met. In the fall of 1963, we both ended up at Table T-1. She was a first-year student, I was a junior. I later wrote a poem about our meeting: “It all began at Table T-1. When Tony thought he’d have some fun; he decided to tease a girl named Ellen, but soon found out she was sweet as melon.” (Dec. 18, 1963) I will spare you the rest of that first of many attempts at poetry dedicated to Ellen, my love, through the years.
I had to get in line, though, to snag my first date with her. BJU had what was called the “note system.” Every night about 10 p.m., notes from the girls’ dorms were delivered to the boys’ dorms, and notes from the boys’ dorms were delivered to the girls’ dorms. I sent Ellen a note asking if she would accompany me to the Thanksgiving Day Turkey Bowl (i.e., soccer championship game) but, lo and behold, she said she had a commitment that day. I think she was the only girl I had asked on a date in college, so I was a bit taken aback. No worry, I took a number and waited, then sent another note for some kind of date—and she accepted. The rest is history. In February of ’64 (not too long after I had to get in line to wait) I wrote this poem that will indicate pretty speedy progress. In part it reads: “There’s no greater joy in this world to share, than the love of a woman—warm and fair. For a woman has power to mold and to form, A man who can bravely encounter life’s storm. Together a couple in love may walk, the span of life’s bridge, as they smile and talk. Together they love when the sun shines bright; together they love through the darkest night. Together—together, and so shall it be; forever we’ll love, my Ellen and me.” (The 2nd stanza is more spiritual!) “There’s no greater joy in the world to come, than to sit at the feet of God’s bless’d Son; to be able to say, ‘I have fought a good fight,’ To be able to know Christ hath conquered sin’s blight. To God be the glory—to Him be all praise! He hath conquered great death, from His grave He was raised. So while we must live for a time here below, precious souls let us win so that Life they may know. Precious souls, precious souls, they are walking on ice; This story we’ll tell them, ‘God’s grace doth suffice!’
Well, for more than 60 years now, what I was just dreaming about in that expression of a young heart madly in love has been working itself out day by day. We have not realized every dream as coming true, but we have realized enough of them that we are still dreaming on—even into our 80’s!
I want to update and close with one more effort at poetry—this one just three years ago on the occasion of Ellen’s birthday: “Ellen, My Love.”
“Through the years, toil and tears; From the start, Love in heart;
You’ve been mine, all the time—day by day, all the way.
Two lives meld, as we’ve held, to the other, Dad and Mother.
Children three, at our knee; God’s so good, Understood!
By His grace, in our place; Called to give, shaped to live;
By His Word, to be heard; Now the time, clocks do chime.
Like a cloud, Death in shroud; Presses ever, lives to sever.
You my dear, daily cheer! God above, gave us love.
May this day, crown your way; Joy and cheer, all the year!”
Happy Birthday, Ellen, My Love!
June 2, 2023
“Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled….” (Hebrews 13:4)
“House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord; Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord.” (Provs. 18:22)
Thank you for your prayers for Dr. Larry Hufhand who suffered a bad fall last week. He is at home now, and is experiencing some serious pain due to a fractured ankle, and has to have help walking. He has several stitches in his head. And , he is scheduled for more than a half dozen doctors appointments this month. Pray, too, for Marion and family members who are caring for Larry. “The effectual, fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. Late breaking news: Brother Larry had a cast put on his ankle/foot Monday, and he can now walk without great pain. He is positive about his recovery. Prayers are already working!!








