
As we have noted, there is more than one command in the New Testament that believers should be hospitable. In fact, even as one reads the Old Testament Torah, God gave the Israelites several injunctions concerning their treatment of “strangers,” always reminding them that they were once strangers for 400 years in Egypt. So, how’s your practice of hospitality?
Karen Mains, in her book Open Heart, Open Home, has shared some good insights on the difference between “entertaining” and “hospitality.” She writes, “Entertainment says, ‘I want to impress you with my home, my clever decorating, my cooking.’ Hospitality, seeking to minister, says, ‘This home is a gift from my Master. I use it as He desires.’ Hospitality aims to serve. Entertaining puts things before people. ‘As soon as I get the house finished, the living room decorated, my house-cleaning done—then I will start inviting people.’ Hospitality puts people first. ‘No furniture—we’ll just eat on the floor!’ ‘The decorating may never get done—you come anyway.’ ‘The house is a mess—but you are friends—come home with us.’ Entertaining subtly declares ‘This home is mine, an expression of my personality. Look, please admire.’ Hospitality whispers, ‘What is mine is yours.’”
I do not know who wrote this “Prayer of Welcome,” but it is worth repeating: “O God, make the door of this home wide enough to receive all who need human love and fellowship; narrow enough to shut out all envy, pride and strife. Make it a threshold small enough to be no stumbling block, but rugged enough and strong enough to turn back the tempter’s power. God, make the door of this house the gateway to Thine eternal kingdom, through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.”
Fifty years ago, in a column titled “Eutychus and His Kin,” a writer for Christianity Today (June 3, 1977) underscored the striking absence of hospitality in many churches: “Singer John Charles Thomas, now sixty-six, wrote a few months ago about an interesting project he undertook because he moves about a great deal: ‘I am presently completing the second year of a three-year survey on hospitality or lack of it in churches. To date, of the 195 churches I have visited, I was spoken to only once by someone other than an official greeter—and that was to ask me to move my feet.’”
When Ellen and I moved to Dallas in 1969, we of course wanted to find a Bible-preaching church to be involved in. We visited the First Baptist Church of Dallas, Texas, pastored at that time by the eloquent W. A. Criswell—not with the intent of visiting more than once, but just for the experience of hearing this renowned pulpiteer expound. We were not disappointed with the message! Interestingly, the next night, two members from that church were at our front door to speak with us about the Lord, and to invite us back to FBC of Dallas. The next night!
There was a small, independent Baptist church about five minutes from where we lived. The greeter, “Bucky,” was always at the front door with a bulletin, a warm smile, and a hearty hand-shake. But that was virtually the extent of the welcome extended to us. More than once, I invited the pastor to our house, but the invitation fell on deaf ears. We did join that church because it was an independent Baptist church so close to where we lived, and the older pastor was an excellent expositor of the Word of God. He never failed to feed his sheep well. But there was no hospitality evident for the two or three years we were there. It seemed that—with the exception of Bucky—it was a small club. Those years taught us the importance of reaching out to every family, with priority given to visiting families.
Years ago, I ran across this interesting testimony: “A Chicago businessman called his wife to get her OK for him to bring home a visiting foreigner as a guest for dinner that night. At the time, the wife had three children in school and one preschooler, so there were plenty of more important things to do than entertain strangers. But she consented and the meal came off without a hitch. The foreigner, an important Spanish official, never forgot that meal. Years later, some friends of the Chicago family went to Spain as missionaries. Their work was brought to a standstill, however, by government regulations. When the Spanish official got word that the missionaries were friends of that Chicago family, he used his influence to clear the restrictions from the missionaries. There is a church today in that province of Spain, due in part to that one meal.”
So many blessings and benefits accrue to those who obey God’s simple command: “Use hospitality.” It was important in 60 A.D.—and remains no less important to the Church of which Jesus Christ was the Founder and remains the Head in 2026. Use hospitality. You will not be sorry!
“Distributing to the necessity of the saints; use hospitality.” (Romans 12:13)








