
“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” (Proverbs 25:28)
Someone has suggested, and with good basis, that a man’s greatest enemy has always been himself.
Sages have been trying for centuries to devise a formula that would ensure victory in the battle against this ancient foe. And some of the world’s eminent philosophers and poets have made untimely exits from this world because they were never able to control their own spirit. Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792-1822), English writer and poet, was purported to be a genius with his pen, especially in poetry; but his spirit was unrestrained and, living a life abandoned to selfish “pleasures,” he died spiritually destitute at the age of 29.
King Solomon likened such a man—a man who has no rule over his own spirit—to a city that is broken down and without walls. Thomas à Kempis, in his book Imitation of Christ, wrote: “Be not angry that you cannot make others to be what you wish them to be since you cannot make yourself what you want to be.”
Control of one’s self is often called temperance in the Bible. What are the marks of a spirit that is not under control? What are the means whereby a spirit is brought under control? And what are the manifestations of temperance and a spirit that is under control?
First, the marks of a spirit NOT under control: Selfishness—satisfying the lusts of the flesh without regard to consequences; pampering the lusts of the flesh without regard to proven Biblical principles; adultery, “free sex,” and drinking intoxicating liquids; embracing the “woke” philosophies of the day; taking a job promotion without seeking God’s will in the matter, or without making sure a move would land you within reasonable distance from a Bible-preaching church; and one could cite a plethora of other selfish, demonic, or worldly distractions. “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap. He that soweth to the flesh of the flesh shall reap corruption.” (Gal. 6:7)
John the apostle warns that the “lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life” are all full of worldly, not heaven-ward, appetites and pitfalls. (I John 2:15-17) Some of these appetites are not necessarily evil in and of themselves; but embraced intimately so that they control you (food, clothes, sex, material possessions, ambitions), they can be areas that Satan will work through, as He did with Eve and Adam in the beautiful garden of Eden—and as he tried unsuccessfully to do with Jesus in the wilderness temptation. (Matt. 4:1ff.) We could add pride, anger, bitterness, depression, suicidal gravitations, and many other “darts” of the wicked one that he will shamelessly use on a believer to destroy his/her testimony—and ultimately kill whom he can. He has been a murderer from the beginning. (John 8:44; John 10:10)
Second, the means of the spirit that is under control: (1) regeneration, i.e., not renovation but the new birth that only comes by grace, through faith, by the Holy Spirit—without which no man will see God or enter into heaven. (John 3) Paul said that he was “wretched” and questioned, “Who will deliver me from the body of this death?” He affirmed that his need was not rejuvenation but (2) Redemption: “I thank God through our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Romans 7: 24,25) Know this, that “our old man is crucified with Him that the body of sin might be destroyed that we henceforth should not serve sin.” (Romans 6:6) With redemption and regeneration comes (3) Renewal (Eph. 4:23)—a renewed mind. The prayer that Augustine prayed, “O that a man would arise in me, that the man I am would cease to be,” can be answered for every person who trusts God for deliverance through faith: That Man is the God-Man, Jesus Christ!
Finally, the manifestations of temperance and a spirit that is under control: meekness, such as in I Pet.3:4: “But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” (In context, this speaks of godly women, but without doubt meekness is a fruit of the Spirit that also abides in the heart and mind of the regenerate man.) Also, contentedness: “But godliness with contentment is great gain, for we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out and having food and raiment, let us therewith be content.” (I Tim. 6:6) Third, moral purity: “Flee youthful lusts, but follow after righteousness, faith, charity, peace with all them that call on the name of the Lord out of a pure heart.” (I Tim. 2:22)
Conclusion: Many sad stories could be told of brilliant lives, past and present, dissipated and destroyed for lack of self-control. God will not destroy you; and the devil cannot destroy you (without your cooperation). But you can destroy yourself. Earlier, I mentioned the poet Shelley, who was exceptionally talented but whose life illustrates perfectly the above statement. I am not sure of the source, but here is one author’s assessment of his tragic life—and death:
“A youth in revolt. A fervent apostle of liberty; a man who wronged, yet knew no wrong—who bound himself by the conventions he defied—who shocked his contemporaries by his life’s work, and dazzled posterity by his genius. From an early age he was fastidious about manners and appearance. He was expelled from Oxford at the age of 22 for writing ‘Necessity of Atheism.’ He died at sea when he defied nature; with his pen he could command legislative bodies, but he never had control of his own spirit.”
“And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess, but be filled with the Spirit.” (Eph. 5:18)








