So, you are an ardent believer in Christ Jesus as Lord and an earnest follower of His, reading and heeding His words. You are, therefore, immune from being hurt; that is mental, emotional or spiritual suffering because of how some other person, even another believer, wronged you either intentionally or unintentionally, through ignorance or through ingenuity. Right? Wrong!
Some supposed friend lied about you, spreading an untruth that was given off as a fact.
Some friend betrayed a confidence that you had entrusted to them.
Someone for whom you have done things for, things for which you had to make personal sacrifices to do—someone fails to acknowledge with even the slightest sign of gratitude your labors of love for them.
A friend borrows something from you and forgets to ever bring it back.
Someone fails to keep a promise and deeply disappoints those who were counting on his or her help.
A highly esteemed person loses his/her temper and gives a strong tongue lashing to another and all in the presence of some younger Christians. It both hurts and disappoints.
So, what to do? Here are five guidelines: (1) Forgive the offender for God commands is: “…forgiving one another even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you “ (Eph. 4:32); (2) Forgive those who offend as often as they ask, even 70×7 (Luke 17:1-6; Matt. 18:21ff.); (3) Look past the offence to the spiritual need of the offender(Acts16:16-18); (4) Commit the offence and the offender to God so that His purposes in both of your lives can be worked out (Romans 12:17-21) and (5) Look upon the offender as an instrument in the hands of God (2 Sam. 16:11) As David fled Jerusalem because of Absalom’s rebellion Shimei cursed King David and threw clods of dirt at him to which David responded, “Let him alone and let him curse, for the Lord hath bidden him….”
Leonardo da Vinci, as he was working on his masterpiece “The Last Supper,” lost his temper and was so upset he could not paint. Leaving his work, he sought out the person that he had become angry with and apologized; then, he was able to return to his work and finish painting the face of Christ.
What to do? In a word, “Forgive!”
“To whom ye forgive anything, I forgive also: for if I forgave anything, to who I forgave it, for your sakes I forgave it in the person of Christ: Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.” (2 Cor. 2:10,11)